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Tapestry

Life is like a tapestry of cloth woven together by the good time and the bad. We all go through challenges in life and good times. The hard times do make us stronger and more resilient but, they can also break us down if we let them. We must learn to pick ourselves up, stand…

Fairytales and Fables

Reading fairytales to our children allows them to use their imagination and escape into a different world. Children get learn different lessons when they are read fairytales. Fairytales are those great stories from childhood that feature magical creatures and themes of good vs evil. They originate from folklore. They are often passed down through the…

Humming bird

Hummingbird fly You may reach the sky Flitter and flow Going high and then low Dodging to and fro Buzzing and gliding You’re often seen yellow, red, purple and emerald green scales reflecting light and shiny Oh, so delicate and tiny This poem is not to be copied or reproduced in any form.

Do you remember the saying growing up that goes stick and stones may break my bones but, words will never hurt me? Well, I’m here to tell you that adult that overlook this kind of behavior in kids are actually condoning it. I hear it too many times having had children and worked in public school as a substitute teacher. Kids will be kids or we did that when were younger. How about telling your kids to just look the other way when things like this happen. What if we told them to stand up against bullies even though they may not be bullied themselves.

What if parents who has a child that is being bullied took a stand against this kind of behavior. If enough parents stood up to this behavior and didn’t allow it to continue, I think things would change. I think the problem lies in the parents themselves and often times the children are learning these things at home.

I tried to teach my kids to be respectful of others even though we do have some toxic people in our family which they had limited exposure to. I really don’t like the kids will be kids’ attitude and think we can do much better than this.

Parents are supposed to be examples for how children should behave and if I child is having trouble knowing right from wrong it is our job to teach them. There are a lot of parents who would be upset if their child was hitting another child or saying mean things to them. Then there is another group of parents who let their children do whatever they want.

This kind of behavior where other children are allowed to hurt others is harmful. We are trying to raise children to do the right thing and that means to be nice to others. Do we want adults running around who cannot treat others with respect? We now wonder why so many teachers are leaving the teaching profession. Well, I can tell you it’s because the behavior problems have gotten worse and no one wants to raise their kids anymore or be responsible for teaching them the proper thing.

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  1. David Avatar

    I agree that parents should be teaching their kids to at least be civil to others, but that is a big ask when so many adults get away with manipulating, bullying and posturing in the workplace. At one point a few years ago, the company had been working or as a senior IT analyst brought in a new guy, much younger and at a lower level, who as a real bully, yelling and swearing at people if they didn’t agree with him. The first time he did it to me I walked away and cut him out of all future meetings if he was not essential. I had several other issues with him in wider meetings we had both been invited to. In the end he forced his way into a discussion I was having with someone else, created a scene and ended up menacing over me, with insults and threats, then screaming abuse at me across the floor. I went over to him and told him very quietly that if the threatened me like that again I would react. Next thing I was called into the senior boss’s office for threatening him. His behaviour was not up for discussion – it was all my fault since as the senior person I “should know better”. It went to “voluntary” reconciliation where I was told in a supposedly private meeting that nothing he had done prior to that morning was relevant – I had over-reacted to that particular behaviour, based on his description of what happened. I found out later that the standard corporate policy is to bully the victim into taking the blame because it is easier than standing up to the bully. Luckily I don’t identify as a bully and walked out of the session. I told my manager that if the didn’t keep him away from me I would get the police involved. My team leader could not get rid of him because that would be “penalising him for having a personality disorder” and it was a relief to everyone when he finally decided to leave.
    My point is that with people like that are raising the children who will see bullying as the right way to win in life and if society will not control the parents how can anyone control their kids.

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    1. kimsenecal Avatar

      Believe it or not I had a similar experience when a new preschool teacher was brought into my classroom. Her idea was to steam roll me over and blame me for my reaction to it. Point out to management all my mistakes, talk down to me etc. Even though others stood up and complained to management about her nothing was done. I left and they put her to work with the infants I think hoping should leave. It was all very triggering as I had a family member with NPD.

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