Amusing-musings.blog

I’m sure we have all had in our life great relationships and not so great relationships. There is the friend who remembers your birthday every year and gets you a card. Then there is the friend who everything is about them and they are self-centered. It’s very frustrating to me that a lot of time and effort can be put into one-sided friendships. I wish I had known this person or two in my life would be selfish. I now look back and can see the red flags but, the sad part is this person can come off as charming and nice in the beginning. After spending time with this person, you are someone to always cheer them on and be their audience. The same person may never reciprocate that for you. They are so self-absorbed they barely notice you have needs now. I had to learn the hard way what narcissism is and what to look for in people, so you don’t end up in a lopsided relationship. The narcissist person collects people as many as they can to bolster their self-esteem and you are selected for your ability to provide something for them. You are their audience for all their interests and talents. Attention seeking behavior is a red flag. Dominance and control in a relationship is another red flag. It’s important to have strong boundaries with others so you are not taken advantage of or end up in a lopsided relationship.